I also have never really cooked on a daily basis: Ever. When you are single and working a demanding job cooking just isn't on the top of the list of things to "get done". Scooter made a comment when we first started dating about my diet...as in, "You eat cereal for dinner?" "Why, yes, yes I do! It's vitamin fortified and if you get the one with the dried up, shriveled strawberries, it's practically a fruit serving also." The thought of getting home from work at 7pm to cook, then eat, then clean the kitchen just wasn't appetizing (pun intended). I was usually exhausted.
There is a point to this I swear and it is: How many of us were trained to be stay at home moms or housewives? Or even better, a working mom and then still having to come home and do all the tasks?
I don't believe I was and it's not my mom's fault but rather society drilling into my head that I needed to go to college to have a successful career - marriage and family will come later. There was a map to follow: High school, college, career THEN marriage and children which is my theory as to why most of my friends aren't having babies until their early to mid 30's. And as a result of society drilling this into my head, when was I to have time to learn to cook, clean and take care of a household let alone children on top of it all? In high school my school day began at 7am (pre-period) and ended at 6pm (cheerleading, softball, soccer practice or whatever other after school activities were taking place) and sometimes later then it was eating dinner, helping clean the kitchen, homework and bed. I'm wondering when the "homemaking" learning stuff would fit in.
Is it something that we as women are supposed to just know or is it something learned? I'm beginning to wonder if that's why there are some women that feel overwhelmed with the child rearing and title of stay at home mom and wife. The transition from having a full-time-office-job-and-getting-to-drink-coffee-made-by-someone-else to then being trapped in your constant state of disaster house and screaming baby cannot possibly go smooth. At least I'd think it wouldn't be possible.
Is this the reason why some of us feel overwhelmed and start to daydream of what it was like to have screaming clients instead of screaming babies? I feel there should be some type of smooth, glossy flow to all of the juggling of housework and child raising but have yet to find it for myself.
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If you ever figure it out, you will make MILLIONS...save hiring a live-in maid/nanny...we're all stuck with it...every single day.
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If you have screaming clients, you still get to come home to screaming babies AND all the cooking and housework!
I was tought growing up how to cook and clean, but coming all together in the family dynamic, fitting it all in is the piece we never talked about. It makes me wonder how late my dad used to stay up making sure the laundry was done, lunches were packed and house was cleaned up. Probably MUCH later than I'm willing to stay up! Therefor, we have enough clothes to go a few weeks if we let the laundry go. :)
I am pretty sure that it is supposed to come to us by osmosis in the womb. I don't even have any kids and I still can't make dinner. When I get home, I need to de-work. Wash it off like a nasty skin. I don't want all of that nastiness getting on my food.
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